faz Posted March 7, 2007 Report Posted March 7, 2007 Has anybody got any views on how much grown up children should be expected to pay to stay at home, we have 2 grown children ( 23 & 20) neither of them pay anything and both take home Quote
Gteuk Posted March 7, 2007 Report Posted March 7, 2007 Housing market as it is, it is difficult to chuck em out, but at the same token they need to learn the value of money, single and nothing else to spend on I would say Quote
mumof4 Posted March 7, 2007 Report Posted March 7, 2007 I was paying 250 quid a month when i was earning 800 a month when i first left school, so that seems a fair figure to me..gotta learn the value of money and that food etc needs paying for!..plus it will help them to learn to budget for the future. Quote
faz Posted March 8, 2007 Author Report Posted March 8, 2007 The reason I asked was that in the past we did not need the money but due to ill health our total income is now only Quote
mumof4 Posted March 8, 2007 Report Posted March 8, 2007 they should either pay up or get out..i left home when i was 17!!..a year after leaving school.. Stop feeding em..doing their washing etc......i think you have to sit em down and explain the situation..the drop in income..the increased costs of them living there and not contributing...if they dont want to contribute then tell them that you cant afford to subsidise them anymore...... Quote
Gteuk Posted March 8, 2007 Report Posted March 8, 2007 If they are always broke, more reason to impliment some rules, they obviously have no idea of the value of money. Friends have been in similar positions, the fact is no-one can get accomodation and electric and food for only Quote
gregers Posted March 8, 2007 Report Posted March 8, 2007 (edited) bloodyhell they dont pay sod all,ive allways had to pay rent,even when i was on the yts scheme i had to pay Edited March 8, 2007 by gregers Quote
mumble_bee Posted March 8, 2007 Report Posted March 8, 2007 When I moved to england... I found it incredibly odd that the parents would charge their children for rent etc...In our culture, the earning child would live with his/her parents and by default help them out financially... Having become a parent myself, and my kids approaching their teens, I now understand it to be an excellent lesson...and I now have respect for the "english" way...it's more pragmatic than the lovey dovey, expect but dont expect way.... The net result is ofcourse the same, I just wonder which unifies the family unit more. Faz I agree with the advice you've been given here.. if the kids cant be bothered to help you.. you have to slap them with a room and board charge... and tbh Quote
AndeeeH Posted March 8, 2007 Report Posted March 8, 2007 Point them in the direction of a few local hotels/B&B's to look at the room rates and then they might realise how lucky they are. Geez, "when I was a lad we had to live in a cardboard box in middle o'road.............etc, etc, etc" ;) Andy. Quote
Bigjeeze Posted March 8, 2007 Report Posted March 8, 2007 We had a similar situation with my middle son. We now ask him for Quote
steve67car Posted March 8, 2007 Report Posted March 8, 2007 if the argue work out the total house hold bills inc morgage/rent split it 4 ways and offer them that as the other option and i am sure they will except your first offer lol ;) Quote
NikpV Posted March 8, 2007 Report Posted March 8, 2007 Now let me get this right - I can charge them - when can I start ;) Quote
mumof4 Posted March 8, 2007 Report Posted March 8, 2007 I remember a good few years ago, this lad who when he turned 18 was presented with a bill and a box of receipts going back to the day he was born!!. Quote
NikpV Posted March 8, 2007 Report Posted March 8, 2007 I remember a good few years ago, this lad who when he turned 18 was presented with a bill and a box of receipts going back to the day he was born!!. I've just bought three large plastic boxes Quote
teresa Posted March 8, 2007 Report Posted March 8, 2007 ive had this argument with my son whos just turned 16 when he leaves school he has a full time job waiting for him earning about Quote
familyman Posted March 9, 2007 Report Posted March 9, 2007 ive had this argument with my son whos just turned 16 when he leaves school he has a full time job waiting for him earning about Quote
teresa Posted March 9, 2007 Report Posted March 9, 2007 ive had this argument with my son whos just turned 16 when he leaves school he has a full time job waiting for him earning about Quote
Guest MATT jr Posted March 10, 2007 Report Posted March 10, 2007 you have to smile at how the value of money has changed over the years :huh: ..when a fiver would fill your tank, etc etc. i currently pay Quote
steve67car Posted March 11, 2007 Report Posted March 11, 2007 i earnt 60 aweek when i left school and gave my mum 30 of it but got half of it back midweek so never skint until i got a car cortina 6 years old Quote
MadBaz Posted March 12, 2007 Report Posted March 12, 2007 BLOODY HELL, I was in care when I started my first job back in 1989, and I had to pay them Quote
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