I've read on many a site that the solid flywheel creates lots of vibration which causes gearbox wear as well as suspension. The dual mass flywheel has a counterbalance in to stop vibration. As for your vibration currently, from my experience the gearbox wants only VW genuine fluid. I had wobbles from pull away in all gears, grating and notchines.After the change it was like new, the aftermarket stuff was to blame. J&R a company in Birmingham sell on ebay the complete drives shafts for £37 each and full intermidiate shaft for £27. I've had mine in for 20,000 miles and still in good condition including the Boots.